Well one thing that you can always bet on is that nothing stays the same forever.
And our little princess just announced that she has exactly 39 days left of High School before the best days of her life ( which she wont realize until she is much older ) are over...
and so will begin the battle that is the Higher School Certificate and then she will be unleashed onto the greater world - into a world she is very unprepared for (thanks to her over protective Ladyship) where she will undoubtedly learn the lessons of life on her own skin all the while surviving on two minute noodles and cereal in her first year at University.
The Lord of the Manor says that it is best that she learns to stand on her own two feet and that as money does not grow on trees around our neck of the woods she will have to learn to fend for herself. I do wish that I could make life less of a struggle and that I could keep on protecting her.
I wish to give her what I didnt have.
I wish that I had been protected by my parents - they thought that protection meant control and by controlling my activities that they were protecting me. As long as they could control the environment that I found myself in it would be easy.
But it wasnt.
It made my journey through life painful.
As parents we need to let our children explore their environment but allow them to have a soft place to fall, a place where love will always be available for free, not just received as long as they do their parent's bidding.
So, I will also learn the lesson of letting go and hoping to all things in heaven that my baby has more joy than grief, more success than failure and more love than pain.
And I promise to catch her if she falls.
Most important of all is a safe and secure environment (not as you say, control) If they know that they have that, that their room is always available and not violated, they can do anything. I have seen many failures due to Molly-coddoling, and just given money, where I have seen much success where they have been asked, when asking for help "now how can You achieve this" there might be silence at first, let their mind go into gear. The more that we can achieve, the better we feel and become more able to achieve. Love to All Frank.
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